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A New Conductor

The Geriatrician wrapped up my mother’s first consultation with him by asking me, “So, when would you like the next appointment?”

I thought quickly. He was a very busy Consultant and only took on Mom’s case after some urging by his colleague. That day at the clinic, we had waited over an hour to be seen as he had many patients and was running late. So I said, “I think six months should be alright.”

“Six months?!” he laughed and turned to Mom, “Aunty, I will see you again in six months, and I hope I don’t have to see you sooner than that!”. So he thought I was being a bit too optimistic, but he went along with me, and said we could call for an earlier appointment when needed.

For the past few months, Mom had been seeing 4 different specialists for the various medical ailments she had. Although dementia can be overwhelming on its own, people with dementia can and do have other medical problems. The only reason Mom wasn’t seeing 5 specialists instead of 4 is because the appointment for the 5th was overshadowed by emergent events and nobody remembered to put it back.

Each of the 4 specialists were intent on treating their own organ issues, without seeing Mom as a whole. For example, two specialists wanted Mom on anticoagulants, a third wanted it stopped. At times, I went a bit nuts. Particularly at the junior doctors when they call me to let me know what was happening. You want to what? For what? Can you call the other specialist and make sure he is okay with that?

So that is why we added a Geriatrician to the mix – someone who can see Mom as a whole, review what’s best for her overall and help us decide which medical ailments get priority. We need an orchestra conductor instead of multiple soloists each playing their own tune.

Weekly Photo Challenge: Twinkle – Kinetic Rain

I’ve never been a fan of installation art, but this piece at Changi Airport Terminal 1 never fails to leave me enthralled.

It’s made up of hundreds if not thousands of suspended pink teardrops each individually controlled by it’s own motor in the ceiling. The teardrops rise and fall in intriguing patterns which ripple across the whole, sometimes resembling large shapes, and at other times appearing like random rain drops. It is really fascinating to watch. Do check out the video after you have tried to imagine the movement from the photos, you’d be amazed.

This is a post in response to the prompt in the Weekly Photo Challenge: Twinkle

Photography 101: Moment

Life is the sum of many moments,
Some are fleeting, seemingly unimportant.
Sometimes we accord the moment all the gravity we can muster…
We must remember this, we must!
We are only young once;
We shall never pass this way again.



Chingay Parade, Singapore 2014


Support Group for Singles (who are Caregivers)

I received an email invite to join a support group for caregivers who are SINGLE!

This really put a smile on my face :)

No doubt it is put together to address the special problems faced by caregivers who are single. A single (unmarried, widowed, or divorced) caregiver will not have a spouse to share the burden of caregiving with. In addition, there are probably more financial stresses, if the caregiver is both earning a living and caregiving. The caregiver might also have other dependents to look after too – such as children, or another parent who does not have dementia but needs support.

But my imagination runs away with me….

Imagine a group of middle-aged singles in a room, commiserating with one another, being supportive, and helping find solutions. They also have something in common – a loved one with dementia. Just being there shows they are kind, responsible people…  perfect partner material. Isn’t the stage just set up for Cupid and his arrows?!

I am curious enough to consider joining, and check the dates. Alas! The schedule doesn’t suit! Maybe next year, haha!

Public Housing in Singapore

More than 80% of Singapore residents live in public housing, provided by the Housing Development Board (HDB). Over 90% of these residents own their flats on 99-year leases. In land scarce Singapore, the population is crammed close together and high-rise living is a must.

The size of each flat varies from 35-150 sqm. Strict rules govern who is allowed to purchase or rent one. Despite the close proximity however, most people do not get to know their neighbours. Maybe this is something that happens in large cities everywhere? There are plans to change this – committees are set up to encourage neighbourliness and voluntarism. In pragmatic Singapore, this is but one way to deal with the aging population who are left alone at home whilst family members go out to earn a living.

Here are some pictures of public housing I took over the years.


view from Southern Ridgemixed public and private housing

view from King George street

a new feature - green roof