Bit by bit

I started this blog over 3 years ago, to have some sort of record of Mom’s progression with dementia. Nonetheless, if I were to look back and read through what I’ve written, the progressive losses would not be obvious at all. Most times things change very little from day to day or from week to week. The pictures tell a different story though. Just looking at the pictures from a few years to a few months ago, and the contrast with reality today is stark.

4 years ago –

Mom is still living on her own, quite independently. She tends to overpack for her holidays, perhaps because she cannot quite remember what the weather will be like.

3 years ago –

Mom is living with me. She needs reminders to take her medication. She is over-friendly with strangers, and sometimes very fierce towards little children. Long walks start to tire her out.

2 years ago –

Mom is super observant, because she is now watching and copying what to do. At mealtimes, she copies my movements. She can still hold a conversation with some of my friends, and ask questions. She enjoys Dementia Day care. She tells me off, “I don’t like what you said just now”.

1 year ago –

She starts to be physically unwell. Climbing stairs becomes quite difficult. She starts to lose her appetite. Arguments start because she has forgotten what she did earlier in the day. Says, “Why do you ask?”

Now –

She is housebound, needs help with bathing. Eats with one utensil and one hand. Doesn’t like to go out, but smiles a lot. Says, “What to do? Life”. Frequently says, “I don’t remember already, so long ago.”

4 years ago, she was independent.


13 thoughts on “Bit by bit”

  1. So like dad’s pathway. We had to feed him in the end because he forgot how to use a spoon – he did continue to enjoy his food – and we enjoyed his smiles. Sending a hug.


  2. Looking at the timeline is like looking ahead for us and knowing what might come. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this difficult journey. Take care. I will follow along as I know I am on the same path.


    1. Everybody has a slightly different journey and timeline, but yes, it did help me to follow others blogs and have a better “sense” of how time passes. Wishing you all the best, and take care, too.

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