Recuperation


The title is hopeful and optimistic, and that is how I feel.

Mom was very weak upon her return from hospital, but I’ve never given up hope that she will recover her strength. She’s not so sure, and has been looking rather down and has a “giving up” attitude about her. Today I spent some time working through her exercises – it was only less than 10 minutes but she got rather tired. I kept reassuring her she will get better if she keeps it up. Living in the moment, she seems not to be able to imagine a future when she is strong again.

I look forward to bringing her for a walk outside in the coming days, and hopefully we can manage a meal outside in a couple of weeks. Sure we could probably do it now with a wheelchair, but that’s a compromise (or lazy solution) I think we can avoid for the moment.

There is a Buddhist lesson I read about being grateful for a non-toothache. Think about it – a toothache is a body-enveloping misery centred around a pain in the middle of your head. It hurts to breathe, to speak, to swallow. The throbbing interrupts your every thought. Yet… everyday we go about when we are not having a toothache, we don’t give our teeth a second thought. We don’t value our healthy teeth until something goes wrong.

Everyday of good health Mom had before this crisis was a blessing that we enjoyed without a second thought. When she was in hospital, it’s funny but the things I missed about having her at home were the things that used to annoy me – the TV being on for hours and too loud, the water gushing while she washed, the fan spinning in the living room while she took a nap. It then occurred to me, these petty annoyances are preferable to the alternative.

 

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13 thoughts on “Recuperation”

  1. Your mother’s progress will seem more sizable as you celebrate even the smallest of improvements. Celebrating the itsy bitsy things during my most difficult of times have given me lots of itsy bitsy celebrations for which I was grateful. Thank you for the toothache story; that is a lesson I will now practice in my own life.

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  2. I will try to remember your toothache lesson! I hope your mum continues to make progress, even if it is slow and you get to enjoy that meal out before too long.

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  3. Thanks for the wisdom of the day. It is almost 3 years since dad was hospitalized and he has been fine since. I need to remember to be thankful for each good day even as I worry with each phone call about what “could” happen. A good day each day is something to be thankful for. I hope your mom improves every day.

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  4. I like what you said about not valueing what we have until things go wrong. Your toothache analogy is very apt. You mother is really blessed to have such a wonderful daughter as you. There are not many people these days who are willing to look after their aged parents and view their circumstances so positively. I hope things will become brighter for both you and your mother. Stay strong.

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