I have only just realised the wonderful way my Mom is welcomed to the dementia daycare centre. I’m not referring to the long waiting time for a chance to attend sessions, but the way she is welcomed when she arrives.
We knock on the door, which is not locked, and Mom would start to open it. Almost at the same time, there would be a staff at the door. Not always the same one, but the greeting is the same.
First the staff gives Mom a great big smile and a warm Hello! She seems delighted to see Mom there. She greets Mom by the name Mom wants to be known by. Almost at the same time, she reaches out to Mom’s arm and gently leads her in.
Such a wonderful warm welcome. No wonder Mom is happy to go and looks forward to her sessions. I have only realised this welcome is neither arbitrary nor accidental. It is intentional and done the same warm way every time we show up. The attention is all on Mom, and I am only incidental to the scene. It speaks volumes on how the staff at the centre are selected and trained.
I am so grateful to the centre and the people who made it happen. Click on the picture to find out more about Alzheimer’s Disease Association (Singapore).
Posted by frangipani on March 7, 2013
Me : I have pomelo flowers!
Friend : For breakfast?
Me : ON the tree
Friend : Picture?
Me : Flower buds
Friend : Nice
Let’s hope I have better luck this year! For last year’s saga of the pomelo flowers and fruit, go to
Pomelo Plant in a Pot - for the flowers and early fruit
Pomelo Update - for the growing fruit
Posted by frangipani on February 23, 2013
Singapore is all abuzz about the projected population growth from 5.3m today to 6.9m in 2030.
People are feeling the squeeze and complaining no end about it. Housing is expensive, cars are expensive, and public transport is too crowded for comfort. The population is rapidly aging too, and the older population above 65 years of age is expected to triple to 900,000 by 2030.
Methinks we plan and worry too much… maybe about the wrong things.
The numbers that caught my eye are actually the following:
There are approximately 200,000 foreign domestic workers (FDWs) in Singapore today. These are the women (mainly) who arrive from some neighbouring countries to live and work in the homes of Singapore residents. They are engaged mostly to look after young children and do the housework, but increasingly often, they are brought in to look after older folk.
Without them, 200,000 households out of the million of so will not be able to enjoy their current lifestyle.
In 2030, the number of foreign domestic workers is estimated to rise to 300,000.
300,000 out of 6.9m if the projected population will be foreign domestic workers (otherwise known as “maids”).
The good thing about FDWs is that they allow the elderly infirm to be looked after within their own homes, at affordable rates.
The bad news is that relying on FDWs is surely not sustainable in the long run. Some day, FDWs will stop arriving on our shores, and what will families do then?
Posted by frangipani on February 3, 2013
Mom loves outings, and it is often challenging to think of safe and interesting places that all the family can enjoy. Shopping centres are busy, crowded and can be difficult to navigate. Also I think Mom gets distracted and slightly confused by all the lights and things on display.
I think a good outing should be physically do-able yet not too easy, and better still have content that trigger and stimulate Mom’s memory. A few weeks back, we had one such outing and it was fun! The fun even started on the way there as we drove down quiet narrow roads with plenty of greenery on both sides with not a tall building in sight. Mom kept saying “I didn’t know Singapore has parts that look like this!”
Bollywood Veggies is an organic farm owned and run by Ivy Singh-Lim, the self-styled Gentle Warrior. She’s a real charming lady, I must say! Full of zest and lives life entirely her own way. Way to go! She runs a restaurant there too, and it’s called (tongue-in-cheek, of course) … Poison Ivy Bistro.
Mom had a great time strolling amongst the fruit trees and other plants. There are lots of humorous signs about too. A most enjoyable outing.
Tiny little chillies
Bunch of bananas
Go ahead, make my day!
The lotus pond
Posted by frangipani on December 10, 2012
A cabby in Singapore blogged about the surreal conversation he had with a passenger with dementia. She was sure, then unsure about where she needed to go, at times pensive then belligerent, and finally got out of the cab after telling the cabby off.
Whilst the cabby treated her very kindly, and even refused to take her fare, the whole episode made me realise how vulnerable the old lady really was. I wish there was a way we could get her to safety. After all Singapore is a small nation, how far can anyone wander without a passport. Do read the blog and let me know what you think.
Diary of a Singaporean Cabby: An Old Lady with Dementia & Dignity..
Posted by frangipani on November 11, 2012
Some time ago, I posted pics from my pomelo tree. I guess I owe all followers an update on what happened.
Well, although a friend told me to wrap the fruit with a plastic bag or newspaper when it was calamansi lime-sized, I didn’t do it. So then one day when it was grapefruit sized, I saw a happy insect buzzing around and poking into the fruit… literally. I apologize I have no pics of this insect.
Anyway, not long after, the fruit started to ripen, and fell into my hand when I gave it a gentle tug. It was still too small, and not the proper size of a pomelo yet.
We cut it open, and the fruit pulp was still tiny within the thick rind. How did it taste? I don’t know :( Memories of that insect put me off!
Posted by frangipani on November 10, 2012