I received an email invite to join a support group for caregivers who are SINGLE!
This really put a smile on my face :)
No doubt it is put together to address the special problems faced by caregivers who are single. A single (unmarried, widowed, or divorced) caregiver will not have a spouse to share the burden of caregiving with. In addition, there are probably more financial stresses, if the caregiver is both earning a living and caregiving. The caregiver might also have other dependents to look after too – such as children, or another parent who does not have dementia but needs support.
But my imagination runs away with me….
Imagine a group of middle-aged singles in a room, commiserating with one another, being supportive, and helping find solutions. They also have something in common – a loved one with dementia. Just being there shows they are kind, responsible people… perfect partner material. Isn’t the stage just set up for Cupid and his arrows?!
I am curious enough to consider joining, and check the dates. Alas! The schedule doesn’t suit! Maybe next year, haha!
More than 80% of Singapore residents live in public housing, provided by the Housing Development Board (HDB). Over 90% of these residents own their flats on 99-year leases. In land scarce Singapore, the population is crammed close together and high-rise living is a must.
The size of each flat varies from 35-150 sqm. Strict rules govern who is allowed to purchase or rent one. Despite the close proximity however, most people do not get to know their neighbours. Maybe this is something that happens in large cities everywhere? There are plans to change this – committees are set up to encourage neighbourliness and voluntarism. In pragmatic Singapore, this is but one way to deal with the aging population who are left alone at home whilst family members go out to earn a living.
Here are some pictures of public housing I took over the years.
It rained heavily this morning.
Mom said, Good morning, it’s raining. So, no need to go, huh?
I said, Yes, it’s raining. Still must go!
We were talking about her dementia day care centre. I wonder why she thought it would be cancelled if it were raining.
Did she use to skip school when it rained?
Did she feel like staying indoors and watching the rain?
Maybe she didn’t realise it would not rain the car, and we could use an umbrella for the short walk from car to centre.
In any case, she was happy to be reassured – the rain wouldn’t stop us today.